Here’s a recording of a recent talk I gave at my alma mater, Barton College.
I shared two video clips at the talk:
Enjoy!
BARTON COLLEGE , FEB.6, 2018
Tom Parham, Winning Tennis Coach, Author, and Bob Dylan Fan to Speak at Hackney Library
Posted on January 3, 2018by hackneylibrary
Tom Parham
Calling all tennis (and Bob Dylan) fans!
On Tuesday, February 6, 2018, Hackney Library and the Friends of Hackney Library will sponsor a reception and program featuring Former Atlantic Christian College (now Barton College) championship-winning tennis coach and AC alumnus Tom Parham.
The event will take place in Hackney Library’s Learning Commons on the campus of Barton College. A reception (with refreshments) will begin at 5:00 pm, followed by Parham’s talk, “Hartsock, Dylan, and 50 Years,” at 5:30 pm.
From 1964 to 1983, Tom Parham coached tennis at the College, and from 1983 to 1985, he served as Athletic Director. He led the Bulldogs to NAIA National Tennis Championships in 1979 and 1984, and earned another NAIA National Championship for Elon University in 1990, where he served as tennis coach from 1985 until his retirement in 2004. Parham was named NAIA National Coach of the Year in 1977, 1979, 1985, and 1990. For his service to collegiate tennis and his achievements in the sport, Parham was named in 1979 to North Carolina’s Order of the Long Leaf Pine, the highest civilian honor awarded in the state of North Carolina. He has received numerous awards throughout his career, including induction into several athletic halls of fame and the awarding of the Elon Medallion, the University’s highest honor, upon his retirement in 2004. He serves on the N.C. Tennis Association’s Board of Directors.
Not only is he a tennis coach par excellence, Parham is also a lover of books–he has written three himself: The Little Green Book of Tennis, Play is Where Life Is, and ALOT (A Level of Thinking)—and he is a devotee of Bob Dylan and his music. In October 2017, Parham donated his collection of over 30 books and four DVDs about Dylan to Hackney Library for circulation.
In addition to his Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Physical Education from Atlantic Christian (Barton) College, Parham holds a Master of Education degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Parham, professor emeritus at Elon University, now resides in Emerald Isle, North Carolina, with his wife Margaret.
Please join us on February 6 for Parham’s recollections of his life as both student and coach at Atlantic Christian College and his passion for Bob Dylan and his music.
This event is sponsored by Hackney Library and the Friends of Hackney Library and is free and open to the public. For additional information, please call (252) 399-6502.
BARTON COLLEGE, DYLAN TEST (PAGE 1, QUOTES)
DYLAN QUOTE TEST
MATCH QUOTATIONS WITH SONG TITLES
QUOTES
1._____”If God is on our side, He’ll stop the next war.
2._____”And his brain has been mismanaged with great skill.
3._____”All right—where do you want this killing done?”
4._____”Is your money that good? Will it buy forgiveness? Do you think that it could?
5._____”Things are breaking up out there, high water everywhere.
6._____”Let’s disconnect the cables overturn the tables. This place just don’t make sense to me no more. Can you tell me what we are waiting for, Senor?”
7_____”May you have a strong foundation when the winds of changes shift.”
8_____”But you and I have been through that, and this is not our fate so let us not talk falsely the hour is getting late.”
9_____”I gaze into the doorway of temptations angry flames. And every time I pass that way I always hear my name.”
- ___”Happiness is just a state of mind. Anytime you wish you can cross the state line.”
11_____”Before the sky there are no fences facing”
12_____”Something is happening here, but you don’t know what it is”
13_____”Ah, but I was so much older then I’m younger than that now”
14_____” strike another match, go start anew.”
15____”You don’t need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows”
16____”For he gets hurt will be he who has stalled”
17___”But to live outside the law, you must be honest”
18____”And I’ll tell it, and think it, and speak it and breathe it”
19_____”But it’s not that way, I wasn’t born to loose you.”
20_____”Kick your shoes off, do not fear, bring that bottle over here.”
21____”I’d just be curious to know if you can see yourself as clear as someone who has had you on his mind”
22_____”Goodbye is too good a word girl”
23_____”So many roads, so much at stake so many dead ends, sometimes I wonder what it’s going to take to find dignity”
24______”It’s only other peoples games you got to dodge”
25____”Just remember when you are out there trying to heal the sick, that you must first forgive them.”
26_____”You’d know what a drag it is to see you.
27_____”You went to the finest school all right Miss Lonely. But you only used to get juiced in it”
28_____”I got sidetracked in El Paso, stopped to get myself a map, went the wrong way into Juarez with Juanita on my lap. Then I went to sleep in Shreveport, woke up in Abilene wondering why the hell I’m wanted at some town halfway between.”
29____”Bury the rag deep in your face, for now is the time for your tears”
30_____”That long black cloud is coming down. “
“DYLAN DAYS”
Jennifer Fulmer played on my Women’s tennis team at Elon University. One day the AUSTIN TEXAS senior wore a “Dylan Days” tee shirt to practice. She told me that they played Dylan all day long in Austin every year on that day.
Mr. Dylan just won the Nobel Prize for Literature, having just played the desert concert along with the ‘stones, Paul McCartney, the Who, Neil Young,etc. Quite a week.
Tonight he plays on tour in Durham,NC.
“,,,roses are red and violets are blue,
and time is beginning to crawl.
I just might have to come see you,
where teardrops fall.”
“HEARTLAND”
“There’s a big gaping hole in my chest where my heart was,
and a hole in the sky where God used to be.
My American dream fell apart at the seams.
You tell me what it means. You tell me what it means.”
Bob Dylan and Willie Nelson
ON THE ROAD AGAIN
MARCH
22
2018
Bob Dylan Setlist
at Altice Arena, Lisbon, Portugal
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Things Have Changed
It Ain’t Me, Babe
Highway 61 Revisited
Simple Twist of Fate
Summer Days
Make You Feel My Love
Honest With Me
Tryin’ to Get to Heaven
Don’t Think Twice, It’s All Right
Pay in Blood
Tangled Up in Blue
Soon After Midnight
Early Roman Kings
Desolation Row
Spirit on the Water
Thunder on the Mountain
Why Try to Change Me Now
(Cy Coleman Jazz Trio cover)
Love Sick
Encore:
Blowin’ in the Wind
Ballad of a Thin Man
BOB SUGGESTIONS
Suggested Songs (Dylan) for certain topics:
Poverty: Race: Academia: The Bizarre: Dignity: Pride:
War:
“Hollis Brown”
“Blind Willie McTell”, “Emmett Till” “Day of the Locusts”
“Desolation Row”
“Dignity”
“Foot of Pride”
“Masters of War”
“Blowin’ in the Wind”
“Its Alright , Ma”
“With God on Our side”
“John Brown”
“All Along the Watchtower
“Senor’”
“High Water (Charlie Patton)
“Going, Going, gone”
“Girl from the North Country” “Maggie’s Farm”
“Stuck Inside of Mobile”
“I’ll Remember You”
“Love Minus Zero/No Limit”
“She belongs to Me”
“Forever Young”
“Lord Protect My Child”
“Most of the Time”
“Sara”
“Hard Rain”
“Lay, Lady, Lay”
“If Not For You”
“Tight Connection to My Heart” “Love is Just a Four Letter Word” “Tangled Up in Blue”
Isis”
“Lily, Rosemary, & the Jack of Hearts” “Brownsville Girl”
“Hurricane”
“Political World”
Depression: Home: Capitalism: Alienation: Friendship: Art:
Children: Lost Love:
Ecology: Love:
Storytelling: “
Politics: 250
Play Is Where Life Is
Best “Covers”
1. All Along the Watch Tower 2. Mr. Tambourine Man
3. Blowin’ in the Wind
4. License to Kill
5. Most of the Time
Jimi Hendrix
The Byrds
Peter, Paul, and Mary
Tom Petty
From “Masked and Anonymous”
“S’MORES”
EARLY LISTS OF MINE INCLUDE FAVORITE MUSIC. THE LIST BELOW INCLUDES SOME NOT EVERYONE IS AWARE OF. SOME ARE DYLAN.SOME ARE REPEATS. AND MAYBE A FEW YOU WILL LIKE AS I DO:
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- 1. CLEO’S MOOD—jr. walker and the all stars
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- 2. THESE ARMS OF MINE…odis redding
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- 3. INTO THE MYSTIC—van morrison
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- 4. FIRE LAKE—bob seger
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- 5. DIAMONDS AND RUST…joan baez
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- 6. FOREVER YOUNG…cover by joan baez
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- 7. PROMISES —eric clapton
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- 8. EVANGELINE—the band with emmylou harris
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- 9. OPHELIA–the band
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- 10. LADY SOUL…the temptations
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- 11. I’M SO LONESOME I COULD CRY—cover by keb mo
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- 11. DON’T DROP IT—wilbert harrison
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- 12. I DON’T HURT ANY MORE—hank snow
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- 13. L.A. COUNTY—lyle lovett
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- 14. FAMILY RESERVE—” “
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- 15. IF I HAD A BOAT—” “
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- 16. HOLD IT —part 2, bill dogett
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- 17. OVER THE RAINBOW—cover by jerry lee lewis
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- 18. WHITER SHADE OF PALE—procol harum
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- 19, ALL FALL DOWN —george jones and emmylou harris
20. COLD COLD HEART—hank williams
DYLAN FAVORITES 1. TELL OL’BILL, 2. THINGS HAVE CHANGED, 3. RED RIVER SHORE, 4. WHERE TEARDROPS FALL, 5. WHEN THE DEAL GOES DOWN, 5. ROLL ON JOHN, 7. HIGH WATER, 8. I’LL BE YOUR BABY TONIGHT, 9. HUCK’S TUNE, 10. NETTIE MOORE, 11. ACROSS THE GREEN MOUNTAIN, 12. END OF THE LINE ( TRAVELLING WILBURYS) 13. LONG AND WASTED YEARS, 14. DUNCAN AND JIMMY, 15. TIGHT CONNECTION TO MY HEART, 16. LOVE IS JUST A FOUR LETTER WORD, 17. TALK THINGS OVER 18. SHE BELONGS TO ME, 19. ITS ALL OVER NOW, BABY BLUE, 20. HEARTLAND (WITH WILLIE NELSON).
RAIN CHECK
Long time golf pro, Grover Bullin of the Wilson ( N.C.) Country Club, had a pat answer when asked about the weather: “If it rains it’ll be a dry rain.”
Part of joining the ever present “old geezers” golf group at any club is listening to tales of geezers past. Or passed. This one comes from STAR HILL down on our coast in North Carolina. It was “…told for the truth.”
Two “super seniors” played almost daily together. They rarely spoke. Both had senior health problems. One had narrowly escaped earlier cardiac failure.
The guys in the pro shop swore they made no comment about the steady rain as they paid up and headed to the tee.
One of the two recounted the scene later. After a few holes the two hit tee shots in opposite directions. As he approached his next shot the witness said he heard a harrowing sound from his playing partner. When turned he saw him clutch his chest and fall to the turf. The stricken player was barely audible, yet trying to speak. Putting his good ear close to victim’s mouth, the survivor swore he heard the final words: “You can have my rain check”.
High Handicap Geezer Golf
I’ve “earned my letter.” And, thankfully I can play golf for fun. Fun is the operative word. Golf can be maddening. Someone said “…golf is not a game, it’s a disease.” Another suggested we make prisoners play. I have felt like sitting down on the course and crying. With the goal of making the game fun for us guys (not you “low to scratch” PLAYERS) here a a few ideas:
– Upon my arrival home after a golf day, my wife asks “…how did you play”? My answer is usually something like this: I played ok except for (pick one) a few bad holes, a triple bogey, one damn hole, etc. My guess is a lot of hackers have admitted the same or similar summations.
– The big problem is MEDAL PLAY. This requires you count all strokes on all holes. MATCH PLAY allows you to play hole by hole, thus alleviating that lingering memory of the unwanted “snowman” or 8 on a par 5. I guess being a tennis coach affects my thinking. No matter how bad you are playing you still have a chance. Where would you be without the second serve?
– Borrowing from education, why not “grade on the curve”, or throw out one bad hole (or one per side”). Count it ( or them of your choice) a par, and move on. I’m calling this game CULL/ THROWAWAY/DOTS Someone told me there is a variation of this that has been played by others, trying to stroke their crushed egos…
Dots is a game for those of us who like bets.
1. Assign a monetary value to each “dot” (SAY 25 CENTS PER DOT) and dispense dots accordingly:
2. HOLEY: You, or your team win that particular hole.
3. POLEY: For a made putt longer than the flag pole.
4. GUACAMOLE: Make par or better with a Hispanic worker in sight
5. NASCAR: Par after hitting a cart path.
6. BIRDIE
7. SANDIE: Make a par out of a sand trap
8. GREENIE: Closest individual to the pin on par 3’s…(option: if no one is ON the green, then GREENIE goes to the closest to the pin)
9. BARKIE: Par after hitting a tree.
10. FRINGIE: Make any shot form off the green.
OPTIONS:
11. CARRYOVERS: Bet (or HOLEY) continues if no one wins the hole…example: No one wins hole 1, hole 2 is worth two dots, etc.
12. EAGLES: Four dots
13. Holes in one: Ten dots
14. Doubles eagles: Fifteen dots
MINUS DOTS:
1. Quitting: Twenty dots
2. SNAKES: Three putts or more–2 dots
3. UNFORCED WINDY (Swing an d miss the ball)
4. PECKER SHOT: Failure to get to women’s tee
5. TRAP TO TRAP
6. GREEN ON WRONG HOLE
7. FLAG STICK: Carry the flag off the green
8. LEAVE CLUB: Must be after teeing off on next hole
9. NON EMERGENCY PHONE CALL
10. FORBIDDEN CLICHES:
- “…Every now and then a blind hog finds an acorn”, or anything close.
- “I pulled (pushed it)” on a short putt.
- Wimpy cussin
- “…Be the right stick”
- “Blew by you”
11. Being further away on your second putt
12. Back to back shanks
13. Hitting the wrong ball
PLEASE NOTE THERE ARE 13 OF THESE. GOOD LUCK WITH GEEZER GOLF
The Little Green Book of Tennis 