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For anyone who is interested in my writing, here are links to free versions of all of my books. Just tap the book title to access a free PDF file on Google Drive.

Little Green Book of Tennis (3rd edition)
A new 2023 digital-only version of the Little Green Book edited to only tennis related writing, including some new chapters from the past few years. You can also download the3rd edition— a revised edition. Play is Where Life is is the first book I wrote.


Em Ole Coaches
Lessons learned from my family, friends, and colleagues over my career. This book is a personal collection of insights from some of my favorite people.


A Level of Thinking
A collection of essays on a wide variety of subjects including sports, politics, and American culture.


Helping
A collection of essays on tennis and coaching, many of which are posted here on the blog. The second half of the book chronicles the impact of international players on college tennis.


Thanksgiving
A collection of personal thoughts, stories, and pictures. Many of the essays were also posted here on my blog.


Nearly Fifty
For almost fifty years, my closest friends gathered once a year for a men’s weekend. This book collects some of my favorite stories and pictures from this tradition. If you would like a copy of this book, please email me.

GOOD GUESS ?

The round of 16 in Men’s NCAA Division I tennis, play today. A quick survey of the team’s starting lineups, excepting Ohio State, feature about 90% international players. Assuming the ones who are starters get the scholarsips, they also get 90% of the grants. And NIL/Portal cash.

BOYS VOLLEYBALL IN NORTH CAROLINA HIGH SCHOOLS

This announcement from THE NORTH CAROLINA HIGH SCHOOL ATHLETIC ASSOCIATION :

Boys’ volleyball, like girls’ flag football, is rapidly increasing in popularity in some parts of the state. The board voted 10-7 to add the sport in the spring of 2027. Tyson said Queen’s University in Charlotte has been reserved by the N.C. Volleyball Coaches Association to host a championship with proceeds benefitting the NCHSAA.

Ten years ago, there were four boys teams playing, according to Sarah Conklin, the Weddington High club coach and a longtime organizer of the sport in North Carolina. Today, there are more than 120 schools playing, or about a quarter of the NCHSAA’s membership.

Last year, 36 states sanctioned boys’ volleyball, according to the American Volleyball Coaches Association, and the NFHS reports that participation in the sport has grown — from 43,000 athletes nationally in 2005-06 to nearly 96,000 in the 2024-25 school year.

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Great Decision

Statement from the Intercollegiate Tennis Association (ITA) Regarding the State of College Athletics, Recent Program Eliminations, & International Student-Athletes


This is the link to the ITA  Statement

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1MWiaejUXfubelwdH2JQD4bzwSrVJ3_MxWhQq8Qa-OWM/edit?tab=t.0

One topic that has received increased attention is the role of international student-athletes in college tennis. This is a complex matter and requires more nuanced public discourse.

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There are presently approximately 20,000 college tennis student-athletes. It should be noted that without international student-athletes, many programs would struggle to field full rosters. Efforts to limit their participation risk undermining competitiveness, reducing institutional revenue, and ultimately threatening the viability of programs themselves. This is not a hypothetical concern; this is playing out in real time. Recent developments in Idaho, for example, underscore these broader concerns. Athletic directors and coaches across the state strongly opposed proposed legislation (ID S1357) that would have capped international student-athlete scholarships at 10%. Ultimately, the legislation did not pass, but it highlighted how policy decisions can directly threaten the viability of college tennis programs. Efforts to cap international student athlete participation in any U.S. college sport may also run afoul of existing federal and state laws and regulations, risking increased litigation and costs. 

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Age disparities, particularly cases involving significantly older incoming international student-athletes, have drawn understandable review. The NCAA is expected to address eligibility rules in the near future, and moving forward, there must be a fair and consistent framework in which all student-athletes, both domestic and international, compete on equal footing.

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For those who care about the future of college tennis, there is also a role to play. Supporting local programs through attendance, advocacy, and financial contributions helps ensure these opportunities remain available for future generations. Sustained visibility and investment are critical to the long-term health of our sport.

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“…you gotta know when to fold em. “

Last week more colleges and universities announced dropping varsity tennis teams than anytime in memory.  Several reasons were:

  1. Expense    2. Title IX   3. The new rules (Portal/NIL )   4. Non Revenue, etc. 

Years back I realized this–

“I wonder how many Athletic Directors silently came to a conclusion similar to this? 1. All sports are counted in the standings for our ‘Conference Cup’? 2. We are in a conference with mostly good tennis teams with all foreign  players.  And we give the 8 girls and 4 and 1/2 boys grants to internationals. 3. I can find a better place for that size of budget.

Like a lot of sports, many tennis teams  dominate winning to the DYNASTY level. Those programs become the model.  

Many conference members have followed this path to the point that almost all the members of most conferences feature 90% of scholarships going to international players. 

Some hard facts emerge:

  1.  If all members do this, only one team wins.  Often the same teams win repeatedly.
  2.  It is like a poker game where you always ante up but never win. 

This may be OK for bragging rights and egos of the oil barons and tech billionaires, but last week several “folded”.

FINALLY

FINALLY 

The link below recognizes the  issue International  player’s dominance of American college tennis:

https://www.ncaascholarshipguide.com/blog/ncaa-tennis-scholarships-for-international-vs-u-s-recruits

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This week also featured similar observations issued from the John McEnroe Tennis Academy.

( 90% of players are international, i.e. scholarship recipients’)

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EARLIER

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What Coaches Are Doing (Tennis-Specific)

Recruiting shift:

  • Less emphasis on high school recruiting
  • More focus on:
    • Experienced transfers
    • “Plug-and-play” singles players

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2024

Earlier I have described how fast international tennis players thoroughly dominated American college tennis rosters .

” My involvement in this tsunami was as a small college Men’s tennis coach. It was tricky in 1970 and it is in 2024.

The NAIA was the first to eliminate quotas.  The coaches repealed the One International eligible for NAIA NATIONAL CHAMPIONSHIP play rule.   

Coach Jim Verdick of Redlands University warned  “…soon some Texas school, with all Mexican pros, will win every year.” He was wrong.  The next year Mercyhurst College  (Pennsylvania ) won featuring  six of six players from Finland won.   The paste was out of the tube. ” (See NEXT PLEASE -www.tomparham.wordpress.com )

Subsequently I tried to make the American basketball world aware of this scenario being repeated in our other sports that had international players. Men and women. That began 55 years ago.

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Once I questioned my own persistence to a respected professional. His adamant response was “… worth the effort? You’re damn right it is worth it. It’s our children. Child advocacy !”

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THERE ARE ONLY TWO MAJOR WAYS TO RECOUP PARENTAL/FAMILY INVESTMENT: 1. PRO TENNIS (IN NC ONLY ISNER, WILKISON, AND SADRI MADE ANY LIFETIME $) AND 2. COLLEGE SCHOLARSHIPS. THE RISING COST OF HIGHER EDUCATION MAKES SCHOLARSHIPS MORE VALUABLE AND MORE APT TO AFFECT THE CHOICE OF SCHOOL AND SPORT TO PURSUE.

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Technology makes research easier.  Embedded below is a “jackleg “ effort I made —studying the top college teams in 2025.   Bottom line:  All divisions (NCAA 1, 11, NAIA, JUCOS, men and women averaged about 90% of starters.  And most probably “scholarshipped “ players.  Only NCAA 111 (non- scholarship ) and NCAA 1 women were less than 90%.

!!!!! This has not been properly emphasized–What matters is scholarships.  The starters get the money and they are 90% international.  

HOMER OF THE SEA

Homer

Homer Hewitt, late and legendary resident of our community, is remembered fondly and often with amusement.

A retired Philadelphia lawyer, he was “of the sea”.  And perhaps best known locally for his ocean swims, he amazed us all at the tough times and weathers he dipped in to.

He lived into his 90’s- mischievous till the end.  

Wife Gwen recently recalled introducing her newly betrothed fiance to her Family.

“Homer was about 60.  I was to pick him up at the airport but didn’t see him.  As he got closer

It dawned on me that the guy in the Grateful Dead tee shirt was Homer.  Bandana, earrings and all.  My brother’s initial reaction was pure shock, but my Parents saw Homer’s humor immediately.”

FOXHOLES

“There are no Atheists in foxholes.”

(From Jack Webster, Grand Poobah of Madison, NC Mafia )

A professed Atheist found himself in fierce combat during the Korean war.

As the Priest walked near him while holding his Crucifex prominently in front,

the “atheist” meekly inquired : Now how does that thing work?

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W.C. Fields when asked why he was reading the Bible on his deathbed:

“I’m looking for loopholes”

RESEARCH

The phrase “he could piss off the Pope” is a common idiomatic expression used to describe someone who is exceptionally abrasive, arrogant, or difficult to deal with. It has been attributed to various individuals in different contexts rather than originating from a single famous source: 

OK–You are not Jesus, but you are Doctor Kildare !

Rule # 1: “First, do no harm.”

“Anyway you slice it, it’s still baloney.”