AI AND I

I asked ChatGPT to ” analyze, critique, summarize my total blog (www.tomparham.wordpress.com).” In less than a minute the link below popped up, followed quickly by several add-ons offered. Several personal reactions include:

  1. The book, THE LITTLE GREEN BOOK OF TENNIS, is the book only. The blog by the same same title icludes all seven books and 500 plus blog articles.
  2. The cover of Harvey Penick’s RED BOOK OF GOLF is a mistake although as an admirer, I used his “golf method” for my tennis book.

3. In earlier writings I used the word POINT to describe the hit moment. Coach Jim Leighton advised that a pupil might misunderstand this terminology. Several of these references slipped by intended editing.

https://chatgpt.com/c/687a677d-cc00-800e-ad0b-b91574b6925f

“People get ready, there is a change coming. “

A NEW LEAF

It is new leaf time for me. It’s not the writing. Technoloy wins. Too many unknown buttons. Too much angst, frustration, begging for help, same errors and “can’t finds .” Good luck, AI.

The writing is fun, so that stays on http://www.tomparham.wordpress.com. No new books on the horizon.

We are trying to reorganize. Below are 500 plus blog articles, unfortunately in no special order. THE BEST WAY TO FIND A SPECIFIC ARTICLE OR SEARCH A TOPIC ( TENNIS, HUMOR,  ETC. ), IS TO CLICK ON THE ”CATEGORY” OF YOUR CHOICE FROM CATEGORIES (A–Z ) ON THE RIGHT COLUMN.

The Coach in “The Cloud”

Tom Parham <ethomasparham@gmail.com>11:09 AM (2 minutes ago)
to me

ON JULY 27, 2012 BY ETHOMASPARHAMIN B2. INTRODUCTION

But I’m trying…I’m trying real hard to be a shepherd. –Jules to Ringo, “Pulp Fiction”

My two sons work in technology. They have made me aware of the “cloud”. Summing up my understanding, the cloud is a modern, idealistic, even utopian way to gain free access to information. Sort of the internet on steroids. Or, for those of us on the other side of the “digital divide,” a giant free library in space.

There is an article on my blog entitled “Mentors”. It describes how one with a thirst for knowledge in any arena might best learn.

. Hope someone out there has the “thirst.”

“Sometimes people don’t want what you have got. Sometimes you can’t give it away”–Bob Dylan from “Floater”***Author’s note:   The comments above are from a blog written in 2012. Since then I  have made anything I  have written free. Any charges now are to cover expenses.

NEW PARHAM BOOK ( 69 )

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REVIEWS FOR “COACHES” PROMOTION (REVISION—4)A new book, “Em “Ole Coaches” by Tom Parham is now available. Coach Parham stretches his insight this time. “ I have been ‘hobby writing’ for fifteen years since retiring. A 5OO plus blog of articles plus seven things that look like books. I have selected the best of all for this book.” Chapters are made of chosen comments on the wide variety of topics. Parham adds “..everything from pickle ball to religion.” Light humor to war, race, the future. “This is an “everyman” attempt. There is new tennis knowledge included, written since the green book.” what is this all about? —-pictures——(TP)REVIEWS OF “The Little Green Book of Tennis” (and other books and writing). Tom Parham has been a student, an athlete, a teacher and a coach. He has observed life thoroughly from each perspective, soaking in the humor as well the heartache. He is a great storyteller with great stories to tell – the end result of a life well-lived and a life well-listened. “‘Em Ol’ Coaches” is a compila- tion of these experiences that defies the pigeonholes of essay and editorial. He delivers the written word in an honest North Caro- lina voice, a voice shaped by a journey that begins in Charlotte and makes its way across the state to Emerald Isle, with many stops along the way. Enjoy the ride. I did. (Russell Rawlings, NC Bar)Tom Parham is always paying attention, which made him a great tennis coach and, as his friends well know, a great storytell-
er. Tom is always cogitating, mulling things over, which makes him also an inveterate agitator. He likes to unmask illusions. His book takes us on a journey through a life-time of seeing things differently, often from a perspective of humor. Maybe Tom is Will Rogers reincarnated! Richard (Richard McBride is a retired Chaplain from Elon University, a fine man, and my friend.) tp“This isn’t just a book for tennis coaches. It is a book for all coaches.” (Joe Robinson, former UNC football staff).NCTF is pleased to help supply Tom Parham’s book, “The Little Green Book of Tennis” to our many hardworking coaches who can gain knowledge about tennis to impart to their HS players.” Coaches will appreciate his originality and benefit from his years of experience.” (Coach Bob Bayliss, Notre Dame Men’s Tennis, ITA Hall of Fame)I know this man. I cannot think of anyone more qualified than Tom in regards to his knowledge of the game. If you want a true “student of the game” and excellent coaching skills, he is your man!!! “The Little Green Book” is proof. J.Allen MorrisI just received your “signed” book today! I finished reading the digital copy last weekend. I really liked your advice on Preparing For College Tennis. I think many parents could benefit from that advice. — Paul Miller (North Carolina Sports Hall of Fame)The wisdom gained in a brilliant career has been boiled down to bite-sized pearls of wisdom in “The Little Green Book of Tennis” – a must-read for coaches, instructors, players, and parents. Ron (Smarr) INTERCOLLEGIATE TENNIS HALL OF FAME.His words flow off the page much in the same manner as the great teachers and coaches I have known. Coach Parham concludes that “this material is, in large part, not mine. I am only the messenger. I believed in it and benefitted from these masters. I did write it down.” I don’t think anyone has done it better.” (David Odom, Wake Forest University Men’s Basketball Coach)NCTF HALL of FAME MEMBER, Keith Richardson comments: “Coach, thanks for “Little Green Book of Tennis”…..it’s a gem,a resource, a reference tool, a reminder of the lessons we should be teaching on and off the court. Pure genius the way you weave your funk into time tested drills, coaching and life advice that most of us have heard before, but have forgotten to pass on. My advice to the pros, coaches, and instructors of the game? Buy two copies of “The Little Green Book of Tennis.” Place one on the coffee table to impress the cocktail crowd. Take the second copy and do what you are not supposed to do to a literary work: throw it in your tennis bag, take it to the courts, the locker room…get it dirty and beat up by repeatedly opening and letting your eyes go to the guidance and advice that you didn’t know you were looking for…. dog ear the section that you can use in your next clinic, highlight the one sentence that becomes the “tennis tip” in your weekly newsletter, steal the forty coaching years of Coach Parham’s wisdom and share it with your team…..all the while acting like you came up with the winning formula by your- self. Coach Parham wouldn’t want it any other way. Tom, thanks again for the work, and for sharing it.” ReplyForward

NEW BOOK BY TOM PARHAM ( 73)

A new book, “Em “Ole Coaches” by Tom Parham is now available. Coach Parham stretches his insight this time. “ I have been ‘hobby writing’ for fifteen years since retiring. A 5OO plus blog of articles plus seven things that look like books. I have selected the best of all for this book.” Chapters are made of chosen comments on the wide variety of topics. Parham adds “..everything from pickle ball to religion.” Light humor to war, race, the future. “This is an “everyman” attempt. There is new tennis knowledge included, written since the green book.” 

PAST REVIEWS

Tom Parham has been a student, an athlete, a teacher and a coach. He has observed life thoroughly from each perspective, soaking in the humor as well the heartache. He is a great storyteller with great stories to tell – the end result of a life well-lived and a life well-listened. “‘Em Ol’ Coaches” is a compilation of these experiences that defies the pigeonholes of essay and editorial. He delivers the written word in an honest North Carolina voice, a voice shaped by a journey that begins in Charlotte and makes its way across the state to Emerald Isle, with many stops along the way. Enjoy the ride. I did. (Russell Rawlings, North Carolina Bar).

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Tom is always cogitating, mulling things over, which makes him also an inveterate agitator.  He likes to unmask illusions.  His book takes us on a journey through a life-time of seeing things differently, often from a perspective of humor.  Maybe Tom is Will Rogers reincarnated!

Richard  (Richard McBride is  a retired Chaplain from Elon University, a fine man, and my friend.)  tp

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“This isn’t just a book for tennis coaches.  It  is a book for all coaches.”  (Joe Robinson, former UNC football staff).  

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BOOK PREFACE: 
Macky Carden was the head football coach at Elon College in 1985. They had great results in NAIA (National Association of Intercollegiate Athletics) football in the 1980s, having won National titles in 1980 and 1981. They were again preseason #1 when I took a job there that included athletic administration duties. Unintentionally I interrupted a staff meeting on player evaluation. They allowed me to sit in on the judgements. Later I asked Coach Carden how they determined whether a prospect had what it took to be an elite college football player. Macky, a stellar lineman, had his own vernacular. Often he preceded nouns with “em ol” or them old. (“em ol” linebackers, or “em ol” defensive coaches, or “em ol” academic dicks across the street ). Addressing my question he concluded : I tell you, “em ol” high school coaches are honest and pretty damn accurate.”  I learned a lot from coaches. And a lot of “em ol” people who were coaches in their own way.

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MORE REVIEWS:

 NCTF is pleased to help supply Tom Parham’s book, “The Little Green Book of Tennis” to our many hardworking coaches who can gain knowledge about tennis to impart to their HS players.”

Coaches will appreciate his originality and benefit from his years of experience.” (Coach Bob Bayliss, Notre Dame Men’s Tennis, ITA Hall of Fame)

We talked frankly about his book.  I know he believes firmly that it will serve America’s young players, coaches & teams.  I know it’s foundation.  I know this man.  Both are solid.  I cannot think of anyone more qualified than Tom in regards to his knowledge of the game.  If you want a true “student of the game” and excellent coaching skills, he  is your man!!!  “The Little Green Book” is proof.

J.Allen Morris

I just received your “signed” book today!  I finished reading the digital copy last weekend.  I really liked your advice on Preparing For College Tennis.  I think many parents could benefit from that advice.

 — Paul  Miller  (North Carolina Sports Hall of Fame)

The wisdom gained in a brilliant career has been boiled down to  bite-sized pearls of wisdom in “The Little Green Book of Tennis” – a must-read for coaches, instructors, players, and parents.

Ron (Smarr)  INTERCOLLEGIATE TENNIS HALL OF FAME.

His words flow off the page much in the same manner as the great teachers and coaches I have known. Coach Parham concludes that “this material is, in large part, not mine.  I am only the messenger. I believed in it and benefitted from these masters. I did write it down.”  I don’t think anyone has done it better.” (David Odom, Wake Forest University Men’s Basketball Coach)

Coach Parham is a master teacher and looked at as a integral part of tennis history in North Carolina, the South, and the nation. The book, The Little Green Book of Tennis is spot on in method and message for coaches, players, and teams, at all levels. Buy it.” (Roland Thornqvist, Head Women’s Tennis Coach, University of Florida)

NCTF HALL of  FAME MEMBER, Keith Richardson comments:

“Coach, thanks for “Little Green Book of Tennis”…..it’s a gem, a resource, a reference tool, a reminder of the lessons we should be teaching on and off the court.  Pure genius the way you weave your funk into time tested drills, coaching and life advice that  most of us have heard before, but have forgotten to pass on.  

My advice to the pros, coaches, and instructors of the game? Buy two copies of “The Little Green Book of Tennis.”  Place one on the coffee table to impress the cocktail crowd.  Take the second copy and do what you are not supposed to do to a literary work: throw it in your tennis bag, take it to the courts, the locker room…get it dirty and beat up by repeatedly opening and letting your eyes go to the guidance and advice that you didn’t know you were looking for…. dog ear the section that you can use in your next clinic, highlight the one sentence that becomes the “tennis tip” in your weekly newsletter, steal the forty coaching years of Coach Parham’s wisdom and share it with your team…..all the while acting like you came up with the winning formula by yourself.  Coach Parham wouldn’t want it any other way.

Tom, thanks again for the work, and for sharing it.”

A. I’M FREE FALLING * (updated March 2023)

For anyone who is interested in my writing, here are free links to my books:

  1. THE LITTLE GREEN BOOK of TENNIS (Second edition).
  2. THE LITTE GREEN BOOK of TENNIS  (Third Edition  https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IstkubA3qBwoJITAtqa2j1l5TW8hc2Myx_6_ZIwGqOs/edit

*These are two books on tennis.   Mostly “mild” , the material below has content that some would object to.

Also New in 2022:

3.  EM OLE COACHES  (HEROES AND FRIENDS )  https://docs.google.com/document/d/1SOMLWckI-GqiweDlSa3B7Pn29q2AUVBW/edit

4. PLAY IS WHERE LIFE IS. My first book.   **The tennis insruction in the back of this book is much better presented in the two tennis books above”. tp

5.  A LOT ( A Level of Thinking). A mixture of serious and fun items, collected by an old coach.

6.  HELPING. https://littlegreenbookoftennis.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/helping-by-tom-parham.pdf.    This includes more tennis, much post-THE LITTLE GREEN BOOK of TENNIS.  Much is a repetition of blog articles.  Maybe more important is the back half of this book , as it chronicles a thorough collection of data on the issue (s) of international college tennis players in the USA.  The history of this ongoing  problem is here.

7.  THANKSGIVING.  This is a hard copy of selected blog articles, writings, family history.  Personal pictures in the back are beach and family/friend/fish oriented.

NEARLY FIFTY.   My friend, Earl  (Country) Boykin of Rock Ridge, N.C,  hosted a  “duck hunting party” for fifty – one years continuously.   It started with the first super bowl. We moved to Back Creek near Bath, N.C.  and did run over a duck. From there to Emerald Isle, N.C. The book reviews, through print and pictures, the principal characters, and some of the events.

TOM PARHAM’S BOOKS–PICTURE ON BACK COVER OF EM OLE COACHES  (LINK ABOVE )

Parham’s blog (www.tomparham.wordpress.com )  hosts about 500  articles,  many on tennis and sports in general.   Others belong in the “caution” category !

The Coach in “The Cloud”

But I’m trying…I’m trying real hard to be a shepherd. –Jules to Ringo, “Pulp Fiction”

My two sons work in technology. They have made me aware of the “cloud”. Summing up my understanding, the cloud is a modern, idealistic, even utopian way to gain free access to information. Sort of the internet on steroids. Or, for those of us on the other side of the “digital divide,” a giant free library in space.

Prior attempts to impart what I know included “Play is Where Life Is”, my “best seller” of 2007. It was such a best seller that my garage had oodles left over. I have given many copies away. I have learned to question readers, knowing how to ascertain whether they have actually read their gift, or parts of it. The book includes my conversation with a revered coach, the late Jim Verdieck of Redlands University in California. I once asked Coach Verdieck if he had written down his voluminous knowledge of tennis. He said “No.” “What happens if you die?” I asked, respectfully. “If I die, it dies” was his answer…one of the few times I disagreed with the legendary coach.

There is an article on my blog entitled “Mentors”. It describes how one with a thirst for knowledge in any arena might best learn. Maybe I am a little naive about the drive to learn that exists out there. I have had only one college coach ask for my advice since 2004. After an hour he said, “Coach, I’m supposed to meet someone at the local bar.” One hour of learning a profession? My angel wife, Margaret, recently made “All Volunteer”. She and I cannot list all the people she helps, or has helped, gratis. Angel she is, Angel I’m not.

I have tried to give back to tennis…recently my friend, Ronnie Watson, bought a racquet club (formerly White Oak Racquet Club). Ronnie not only changed the club name, (it is now “Olde Porte Racquet Club”) but almost everything else in a most positive way. Ronnie is a great tennis enthusiast and has made a tremendous investment in local tennis in our coastal area. I volunteered to be an “advisor” to Ole Porte because of the qualities of Ronnie’s effort. In addition to traditional clinics, lessons, tips, assisting high school coaches, our pro staff and mentoring talented youngsters, I am trying to get my information in “the cloud.”

You can Google Olde Porte Racquet Club to learn more about the club. On the club’s homepage there is a column entitled “Coach’s Corner”. Punch that link and you will find recommended articles from my blog and book. The blog (www.tomparham.wordpress.com) has half tennis articles. There is a place to add your comments or questions. It is all free. Hope someone out there has the “thirst.”

“Sometimes people don’t want what you have got. Sometimes you can’t give it away”–Bob Dylan from “Floater”

Our State

Our State Magazine June 2008

Play is Where Life is covered briefly in the June issue of “Our State” magazine. Here’s the quick blurb – “A collection of memories from Parham’s 67 years, Play is Where Life Is includes antics from his childhood as a preacher’s son and his career as a National Hall of Fame tennis coach, which included nearly 20 years at Elon University.”