MESS UP LIST AND THE GIT BACK COACH

My Wife is from Canada. She is in week one of a trip to see her Sister in Vancouver. Nearly 84 I don’t travel well , perferring this zip code. I am “home alone “. Some one asked if my wife would remarry if I died? Russell Rawlings said “…she will have a date at his funeral !”

My whole tribe is worried about my survival. Family and friends. And they are all checking on me. The Game Warden came by yesterday. My Son also hired a local young man who came by with a CHECKLIST. On his IPhone. We have a land line and I have a flip phone. Never turn it on. Certainly don’t carry it.

My young Guardian checked off ” Was he there? Breathing ? Food on him?” Short list ! Aren’t you going to check my blood pressure ? Come back later and tuck me in? Paint the house? He left.

Most wives have a list. My Wife’s list is biblical length. Or equal to a football PLAYBOOK.

One of my duties at Elon was to proof read their football playbook. One of their lists was titled SHARED DUTIES OF THE STAFF. Essentially mundane tasks ( supervising study hall, locker room clean ? etc. ) Two duty assigments caught my eye— GIT BACK COACH and MESS UP LIST.

Coach Clay Hassard explained that no matter what, in the excitement of a game, the players would crowd further and further toward the field. A penalty was possible. One coach on game days was to yell GET BACK all day long.

The “MESS UP LIST ” was penalty for team violations (cutting class, late for practice, missing study hall). The Mess Up Coach met those listees for a predawn run at the track, Both the coaches and the players changed the title of this list so it started with an F.

Violation # 1. I left without my phone . Basically I only go to the bank, CVS, and the barbershop . MY list.

Came home to find K9 dogs and the Coast Guard searching the house, grounds, and ocean.

I’ve decided to keep my own mess up list below:

  • missed watering the plants and to bring in the dry beach towels ( laying in the bed at midnight I realized this ommission and watered in the moonlight. )
  • forgot to pour water in coffee pot. ( again I realized my error —when the pot began to smoke. worked fine).
  • this one is tough. I had a Drs appointment with The Foot Doctor at 11:30. I left in plenty of time to get to the Cedar Point NC office. The office was gone, Is it in the next strip mall? No, the next? No! I asked three people and got 3 blank looks. Aha–the flip phone after all ! NOPE DEAD! I then saw the UPS driver . “Man that place is in Swansboro”—-oops. Thoroughly embarrassed I apologized to the receptioness. She looked at me strongly –“Name, Date of birth– pause? Sir – your wife changed that appointment.

A strange relief oozed over me, and I realized I was to pick up a shoe the Dr. was to alter, and asked if I shouldn’t go ahead and take the shoe with me ? Now it was her turn to be chagrined : ” Sir –I hate to tell you but I forgot to deliver that shoe to Morehead City where he does that work!”

Both of us to the MESS UP list. Some how evened things out.

List to be continued

THE POWER OF THE DREAM (Celine Dion )

[Verse 1]
Deep within each heart
There lies a magic spark
That lights the fire of our imagination
And since the dawn of man
The strength of just I can
Has brought together people of all nations
There’s nothing ordinary in the living of each day
There’s a special part every one of us will play

[Chorus]
Feel the flame forever burn
Teaching lessons we must learn
To bring us closer to the power of the dream

[Bridge]
As the world gives us its best
To stand apart from all the rest
It is the power of the dream that brings us here

[Verse 2]
Your mind will take you far
The rest is just your heart
You’ll find your fate is all your own creation
And every boy and girl as they come into this world
Bring the gift of hope and inspiration

[Chorus]
Feel the flame forever burn
Teaching lessons we must learn
To bring us closer to the power of the dream

[Verse 3]
The world unites in hope and peace
We pray that it will always be
It is the power of the dream that brings us here
There’s so much strength in all of us
Every woman, child, and man
It’s the moment that you think you can’t
You’ll discover that you can

[Chorus]
Feel the flame forever burn
Teaching lessons we must learn
To bring us closer to the power of the dream
Feel the flame forever burn
Teaching lessons we must learn
To bring us closer to the power of the dream

[Verse 4]
The power of the dream
Faith in things unseen
Courage to embrace your fears
No matter where you are
To reach for your own star

[Outro]
To realize the power of the dream
To realize the power of the dream

Terriers and Bulldogs

Noted from an article in July 15,2024 SPORTS ILLUSTRATED by Jon Wertheim

23. A secret hiding in plain sight: college tennis. It’s not just the experience it provides. ( Navratilova’s theory: College players play doubles so they work on their lobs and overheads.) It’s not just the legion of players now populating the draws-though, on Wimbleon’s middle weekend, three alumni from one school (University of Virginia) were in action. It’s also college tennis’s far-reaching effects. Agents come out of college tennis. So do tour employees, significant others and coaches. A few weeks ago, someone wrote into the mailbag asking who was coaching Bianca Andreescu. It’s J.T. Nishimura, who played at the University of California, Berkeley. Speaking of … 24. Peter Ayers played at Duke University in the 1990s. He became a tennis coach in the Carolinas and, nearly a decade ago, began working with Navarro. As she ascended in the juniors, then in college and then in the pros, he remained the chief aide-de-camp. It says a lot about Navarro that she would stick with him. A lot of players similarly situated would have left their coach once they hit the big time.

Read more at: https://www.newsobserver.com/sports/article290059719.html#storylink=cpy

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Second Guessing

Here is a clip from an earlier blog—College Doubles

The most fun in tennis is playing for your school team. The doubles point often dictates the team winner. American college coaches. all things equal, recruit players who are good at both singles and doubles.

I believe college women will find great pro possibilities in doubles because of the unique efforts in developing doubles teams.

One flaw in American Junior development is the emphasis on singles ranking only. Doubles play is considered a detriment to singles rank. What if players were ranked on singles and doubles combined. Or simply a combination ranking?

Actually men’s college doubles vets shone brighter this WIMBLEDON. Henry Patten for the UNC Asheville Bulldogs, a winning partner in doubles. Rob Galloway of the Wofford College Terriers played a spectacular first set in the doubles second round. Doubles COUNT in college tennis and the results shed light on a bigger issue. Having coached against Wofford and UNC Asheville years back I can describe them as small mid majors in the NCAA.

Having watched the debacle of college sports ( portals and likeness, who pays how much? etc. ), combined with the decline of minor league baseball compared to college baseball’s staggering TV success (and women’s softball ), —haven’t these two become ” revenue sports “? The Omaha World Series, at $250 a seat sells out weekly. That Honeycutt kid from Carolina deserves a cut.

TV substituted college baseball for the pros when the Major Leagues went on strike. Colleges now are the minor leagues of baseball. Softball is a big TV draw. Are these new “money sports”? Others are growing on TV.

American Tennis players need scholarships to stay in the aena.

MAYBE, JUST MAYBE

This came from a newspaper article about the possibilities of expanding Black participation in pickleball.

A Charlotte-based pickleball organization is rethinking how Black people view the rapidly growing sport.

Black Pickleball & Co., founded by Kayla Brooks in 2023, is using pickleball not simply as a sport, but as a way to create community, friendships, professional relationships, and opportunities.

Brooks has pointed out something that is important beyond pickleball:

“A lot of Black people miss their seat at the table simply because they don’t play these sports.”

That observation applies not only to pickleball, but also to tennis and golf.

Black Pickleball & Co. has created events where people come together to play, socialize, and build relationships. The emphasis is on community first and pickleball second.

That may be the most important idea of all.

People don’t necessarily have to arrive because they already love pickleball. They can arrive because they are looking for people, friendships, activity, or a new experience.

And that is where I think pickleball has enormous potential.

MAYBE, JUST MAYBE

Perhaps tennis people have been looking at pickleball from the wrong direction.

Instead of asking, “How much is pickleball taking away from tennis?” perhaps we should ask:

How much can pickleball add to tennis?

Pickleball is easy to learn. It is inexpensive. It can be played on existing facilities. And, most importantly, people have fun almost immediately.

That makes it a potentially powerful introduction to the entire racquet-sport world.

I have argued before that pickleball could become a lead-up game to tennis, particularly for young people who might otherwise never pick up a racquet.

But there is another possibility.

Pickleball can bring people into a social and recreational environment they might otherwise avoid. Once they are there, they may discover tennis. Or golf. Or simply the value of being active and around other people.

That is a win.

THE BIGGER PICTURE

For years, tennis organizations have talked about expanding participation among minorities and people who have traditionally been left outside the sport.

Maybe pickleball can help.

The opportunity is especially attractive because many communities already have tennis courts that are underused. Adding pickleball lines is relatively inexpensive and can transform an empty facility into an active one.

And when people begin using the courts, something else happens:

They become part of the tennis community.

Maybe they eventually play tennis.

Maybe they don’t.

Either way, they are no longer sitting at home.

That is why I continue to believe that tennis and pickleball should not be enemies.

They have a common opponent:

inactivity.

And perhaps, in the case of young people, video games.

Maybe—just maybe—pickleball is not the enemy at the gate.

Maybe it is an opportunity.

LOVE AND THEFT

Transcript KEN BURNS COMMENCEMENT AT BRANDEIS

– Brandeisian, love it. (audience laughing)

President Liebowitz, Ron, Chair Lisa Kranc,

and other members of the board of trustees.

Provost Carol Fierke, fellow honorees,

distinguished faculty and staff,

proud and relieved parents,

calm and serene grandparents,

distracted but secretly pleased siblings,

ladies and gentlemen, graduating students

of the class of 2024, good morning.

I am deeply honored and privileged

that you have asked me here to say a few words

at such a momentous occasion that you might find

what I have to say worthy of your attention

on so important a day in all of your lives.

Thank you for this honor.

Listen, I am in the business of history.

It is not always a happy subject

on college campuses these days,

particularly when forces seem determined

to eliminate or water down difficult parts of our past,

particularly when the subject may seem

to sum an anachronistic and irrelevant pursuit,

And particularly with the ferocious urgency

this moment seems to exert on us.

It is my job, however, to remind people

of the power our past also exerts,

to help us better understand what’s going on now

with compelling story, memory, and anecdote.

It is my job to try to discern patterns

and themes from history to enable us

to interpret our dizzying and sometimes dismaying present.

For nearly 50 years now, I have diligently practiced

and rigorously tried to maintain a conscious neutrality

in my work, avoiding advocacy if I could,

trying to speak to all of my fellow citizens.

Over those many decades I’ve come

to understand a significant fact, that we are not condemned

to repeat as the saying goes, what we don’t remember.

That is a beautiful, even poetic phrase,

but not true, nor are there cycles of history

as the academic community periodically promotes.

The Old Testament, Ecclesiastes to be specific,

got it right, I think.

What has been will be again,

what has been done will be done again.

There is nothing new under the sun.

What those lines suggest is that human nature never changes,

or almost never changes.

We continually superimpose that complex

and contradictory human nature

over the seemingly random chaos of events,

all of our inherent strengths and weaknesses,

our greed and generosity, our puritanism

and our prurience, our virtue, and our venality parade

before our eyes, generation after generation

after generation. This often gives us the impression

that history repeats itself.

It does not.

“No event has ever happened twice, it just rhymes,”

Mark Twain is supposed to have said.

I have spent all of my professional life on the lookout

for those rhymes, drawn inexorably to that power of history.

I am interested in listening to the many varied voices

of a true, honest, complicated past

that is unafraid of controversy and tragedy,

but equally drawn to those stories

and moments that suggest an abiding faith

in the human spirit, in particularly the unique role

this remarkable and sometimes also dysfunctional republic

seems to play in the positive progress of mankind.

During the course of my work, I have become acquainted

with hundreds if not thousands

of those voices. They have inspired, haunted,

and followed me over the years.

Some of them may be helpful to you as you try to imagine

and make sense of the trajectory of your lives today.

Listen, listen.

In January of 1838, shortly before his 29th birthday,

a tall, thin lawyer prone to bouts

of debilitating depression addressed

the young men’s lyceum in Springfield, Illinois.

“At what point shall we expect the approach of danger?”

He asked his audience,

“Shall we expect some trans-Atlantic military giant

to step the earth and crush us at a blow?”

Then he answered his own question.

“Never.

All the armies of Europe, Asia, and Africa could not

by force take a drink from the Ohio River

or make a track on the Blue Ridge

in a trial of a thousand years.

If destruction be our lot,

we must ourselves be its author and finisher.

As a nation of free men, we must live

through all time or die by suicide.”

It is a stunning, remarkable statement, one

that has animated my own understanding

of the American experience since I first read it

more than 40 years ago.

That young man was of course Abraham Lincoln,

and he would go on to preside over the closest this country

has ever come to near national suicide, our civil war,

and yet embedded in his extraordinary, disturbing,

and prescient words is also a fundamental optimism

that implicitly acknowledges the geographical forcefield

two mighty oceans east and west

and two relatively benign neighbors north and south

have provided for us since the British burned

the White House in the War of 1812

and inspired Francis Scott Key.

Lincoln’s words that day suggest what is so great

and so good about the people who happen

to inhabit this lucky and exquisite country of ours.

That’s the world you now inherit. Our work ethic

and our restlessness, our innovation

and our improvisation, our communities

and our institutions of higher learning,

our suspicion of power. The fact

that we seem resolutely dedicated to parsing the meaning

between individual and collective freedom:

what I want versus what we need.

That we are all so dedicated to understanding

what Thomas Jefferson really meant when he wrote

that mysterious phrase, “The pursuit of happiness”.

Hint, it happens right here in the lifelong learning

and perpetual improvement this university is committed to.

But the isolation of those two oceans

has also helped to incubate habits

and patterns less beneficial to us,

our devotion to money and guns and conspiracies,

our certainty about everything, our stubborn insistence

on our own exceptionalism blinding us

to that which needs repair, especially with regard

to race and ethnicity. Our preoccupation

with always making the other wrong

at an individual as well as a global level.

I am reminded of what the journalist I.F. Stone once said

to a young acolyte who was profoundly disappointed

in his mentor’s admiration for Thomas Jefferson.

“It’s because history is tragedy,”

Stone admonished him, “Not melodrama.”

It’s the perfect response. In melodrama,

all villains are perfectly villainous

and all heroes are perfectly virtuous,

but life is not like that.

You know that in your guts and nor is our history like that.

The novelist, Richard Powers recently wrote that,

“The best arguments in the world,”——and ladies

and gentlemen, that’s all we do is argue——

The best arguments in the world, he said,

“Won’t change a single person’s point of view.

The only thing that can do that is a good story.”

I’ve been struggling for most of my life to do that,

to try to tell good, complex,

sometimes contradictory stories,

appreciating nuance and subtlety and undertow,

sharing the confusion and consternation

of unreconciled opposites.

But it’s clear as individuals and as a nation,

we are dialectically preoccupied.

Everything is either right or wrong,

red state or blue state, young or old,

gay or straight, rich or poor, Palestinian or Israeli,

my way or the highway.

Everywhere we are trapped by these old, tired,

binary reactions, assumptions, and certainties.

For filmmakers and faculty, students and citizens,

that preoccupation is imprisoning.

Still, we know and we hear and we express only arguments,

and by so doing, we forget the inconvenient complexities

of history and of human nature: that, for example,

three great religions, their believers

all children of Abraham, each professing at the heart

of their teaching, a respect for all human life,

each with a central connection to

and legitimate claim to the same holy ground,

violate their own dictates of conduct

and make this perpetually contested land

a shameful graveyard.

God does not distinguish between the dead.

“Could you,”…

“Could you,”

A very wise person I know with years of experience

with the Middle East recently challenged me,

“Could you hold the idea

that there could be two wrongs and two rights?”

Listen, listen.

In a filmed interview I conducted

with the writer James Baldwin, more than 40 years ago,

he said, “No one was ever born who agreed

to be a slave, who accepted it.

That is, slavery is a condition imposed from without.

Of course, the moment I say that,” Baldwin continued,

“I realize that multitudes and multitudes

of people for various reasons

of their own enslave themselves every hour

of every day to this or that doctrine,

this or that delusion of safety,

this or that lie. Anti-Semites, for example,”

he went on, “are slaves to a delusion.

People who hate Negroes are slaves.

People who love money are slaves.

We are living in a universe really of willing slaves,

which makes the concept of liberty

and the concept of freedom so dangerous,” he finished.

Baldwin is making a profoundly psychological

and even spiritual statement, not just a political

or racial or social one.

He knew, just as Lincoln knew, that the enemy is often us.

We continue to shackle ourselves

with chains we mistakenly think is freedom.

Another voice, Mercy Otis Warren, a philosopher

and historian during our revolution put it this way:

“The study of the human character at once opens a beautiful

and a deformed picture of the soul.

We there find a noble principle implanted

in the nature of people, but when the checks

of conscience are thrown aside, humanity is obscured.”

I have had the privilege for nearly half a century

of making films about the US,

but I have also made films about us.

That is to say the two letter, lowercase, plural pronoun.

All of the intimacy of “us” and also “we” and “our”

and all of the majesty, complexity,

contradiction, and even controversy of the US.

And if I have learned anything over those years,

it’s that there’s only us.

There is no them.

And whenever someone suggests to you,

whomever it may be in your life

that there’s a them, run away.

Othering is the simplistic binary way

to make and identify enemies, but it is also the surest way

to your own self imprisonment,

which brings me to a moment I’ve dreaded

and forces me to suspend my longstanding

attempt at neutrality.

There is no real choice this November.

There is only the perpetuation, however flawed

and feeble you might perceive it,

of our fragile 249-year-old experiment

or the entropy that will engulf

and destroy us if we take the other route.

When, as Mercy Otis Warren would say,

“The checks of conscience are thrown aside

and a deformed picture of the soul is revealed.”

The presumptive Republican nominee is the opioid

of all opioids, an easy cure for

what some believe is the solution

to our myriad pains and problems.

When in fact with him, you end up re-enslaved

with an even bigger problem, a worse affliction

and addiction, “a bigger delusion”,

James Baldwin would say, the author

and finisher of our national existence,

our national suicide as Mr. Lincoln prophesies.

Do not be seduced by easy equalization.

There is nothing equal about this equation.

We are at an existential crossroads

in our political and civic lives.

This is a choice that could not be clearer.

Listen, listen.

33 years ago, the world lost a towering literary figure.

The novelist and storyteller, not arguer,

Isaac Bashevis Singer.

For decades he wrote about God and myth and punishment,

fate and sexuality, family and history.

He wrote in Yiddish, a marvelously expressive language,

sad and happy all at the same time.

Sometimes maddeningly all knowing, yet resigned

to God’s seemingly capricious will.

It is also a language without a country,

a dying language in a world more interested

in the extermination or isolation

of its long suffering speakers.

Singer, writing in the pages

of the Jewish Daily Forward help to keep Yiddish alive.

Now our own wonderfully mongrel American language is

punctuated with dozens of Yiddish words

and phrases, parables, and wise sayings,

and so many of those words are perfect onomatopoeias

of disgust and despair, hubris and humor.

If you’ve ever met a schmuck,

you know what I’m talking about.

Toward the end of his long and prolific life,

Singer expressed wonder at why so many

of his books written in this obscure

and some said useless language would be

so widely translated, something like 56 countries

all around the world.

“Why,” he would wonder with his characteristic playfulness,

“Why would the Japanese care about his simple stories

of life in the shtetls of Eastern Europe 1,000 years ago?”

“Unless,” Singer paused, twinkle in his eye,

“Unless the story spoke of the kinship of the soul.”

I think what Singer was talking about was

that indefinable something that connects all

of us together, that which we all share as part

of organic life on this planet, the kinship of the soul.

I love that.

Okay, let me speak directly to the graduating class.

Watch out, here comes the advice.

Listen. Be curious, not cool.

Insecurity makes liars of us all.

Remember, none of us get out of here alive.

The inevitable vicissitudes of life, no matter

how well gated our communities, will visit us all.

Grief is a part of life, and if you explore

its painful precincts, it will make you stronger.

Do good things, help others.

Leadership is humility and generosity squared.

Remember the opposite of faith is not doubt.

Doubt is central to faith.

The opposite of faith is certainty.

The kinship of the soul begins with your own at times

withering self-examination. Try to change

that unchangeable human nature

of Ecclesiastes, but start with you.

“Nothing so needs reforming,”

Mark Twain once chided us, “As other people’s habits.”

Don’t confuse success with excellence.

Do not descend too deeply into specialism.

Educate all of your parts, you will be healthier.

Do not get stuck in one place.

“Travel is fatal to prejudice,” Twain also said.

Be in nature, which is always perfect

and where nothing is binary.

Its sheer majesty may remind you

of your own atomic insignificance,

as one observer put it,

but in the inscrutable and paradoxical ways

of wild places, you will feel larger, inspirited,

just as the egotist in our midst

is diminished by his or her self regard.

At some point, make babies. One of the greatest things

that will happen to you, I mean it,

one of the greatest things that will happen

to you is that you will have to worry,

I mean really worry, about someone other than yourself.

It is liberating and exhilarating, I promise.

Ask your parents.

Choose honor over hypocrisy, virtue over vulgarity,

discipline over dissipation, character over cleverness,

sacrifice over self-indulgence.

Do not lose your enthusiasm, in its Greek etymology

the word enthusiasm means simply, “god in us”.

Serve your country.

Insist that we fight the right wars.

Denounce oppression everywhere.

Convince your government, as Lincoln understood

that the real threat always and still comes

from within this favored land.

Insist that we support science and the arts,

especially the arts.

They have nothing to do

with the actual defense of our country;

They just make our country worth defending.

Remember what Louis Brandeis said,

“The most important political office is

that of the private citizen.”

Vote.

You indelibly…

Please,

vote.

You indelibly underscore your citizenship,

and most important, our kinship with each other when you do.

Good luck and godspeed.